Today’s questions is—-
Is it possible to find a good man?
I have to say looking at the divorce rate in the United States, I can understand why many of us are wondering whether or not it is possible for a woman to find a good man.
As a relationship coach, it is important for me to clarify this statement, since I have met several men who also expressed similar concerns in their search to find their queen.
I believe we are all looking for similar things in regards to relationships. We want to find a good partner. Someone who is loving, kind, respectful, trustworthy and compatible to us .
While growing up, I remember my parents emphasizing on the value of getting a good education and one day having my own family.
I decided I was going to do just that.
Except, right after I got married, I realized I did not fully understand the concept of marriage. I was not sure on how to handle the stress of the relationship and did not know how to voice my opinion about the relationship I was looking for.It wasn’t until I experienced a second divorce, that I started to question myself and wondered what I was doing wrong.
It took me a long time to understand the notion of having healthy relationships.
How our relationships affect our daily lives? and why it is important to find a compatible partner.
When looking for a mate, it should be a prerequisite for all of us to know our values, our pet peeves and why this person is a good match.
If we want to know why it is difficult to find a good man, we have to be honest with ourselves.
We have to talk about things we might not want to hear.
Often, we find solace in justifying our actions. We declare “we have bad luck”, we make excuses, but rarely assess our own behavior.
Instead, we justify our lack of action, spend days complaining and only to find ourselves a few weeks later repeating the same pattern.
We can no longer hide behind our excuses. If the desire is to alter the result of our relationships, we must be aware of our conduct and take steps to achieve different outcomes.
If you find yourself going from one relationship to the next. Perhaps you should take some time to reflect on your approach when choosing your next partner.
For instance you could use different techniques when communicating. I have a variety of free videos on my website that can help you improve the way you communicate.
Do you feel that you knew enough about your partner before entrusting your heart to this person?
Did you ask the right questions and do you know what you’re looking for in the relationship?
I believe we want different things based on where we in life and if we take some time to find out what we desire from our relationships, we will never be asking if there is such a thing as “a good man or a good woman” .
Because if the relationship does not last, you will know it was never that your partner was not good enough; instead it was the life vision your shared that was different .
I hope I was able to answer the question and if you have any comments, please send them to me.
As always I enjoy your feedback.Remember to visit my website at www.owningmydestiny.com and you can reach me at MKanzki@owningmydestiny.com.
I want to remind you all, we have one shot at this thing called life, our job is to enjoy every moment.
Now single ladies, go on and find your a good man.