Have you ever asked yourself: “What caused the negative feelings to emerge”? This question is going to help us to reflect on our behavior and see how we can take responsibility for our actions without the blaming game.
Often time we blame ourselves for doing the right thing and it is mostly because many of us want to be accepted. We want to make everybody happy even when we inconvenienced ourselves.
Another thing we need to consider is that we are also our worst critics. We often focus on things we don’t like about us and complain about them.
Over the years, I’ve met a diversity of people who do just that. I also realized that many of them have two things in common, they are all looking for a sympathetic ear to listen to their problems and they enjoy the pity party.
We have to be aware of what is happening when we start questioning ourselves.
Remember through communication we share our emotions and our intentions.
When communicating, we are free to express ourselves genuinely. Speaking the truth, even if it is not what the other person wants to hear.
When we are having honest communication, we don’t have to worry too much about the content. We just have to make sure it is delivered in a way that the listener can receive and we take liability for what was said.